Manage the pain of the exploiters relations

How many times have you said "a choice I not?" It is a phrase to which many justify their behavior or complain cities living beyond their means. Certainly can we still believe without ways, but it is my conviction that type of thinking which is substantially the helps and makes limited amount and the amount of staff, meet us our frustration.

If in a situation where believe there is "no choice", remember that there are at least three options. Each situation has at least three following possible solutions: you can leave to amend or to accept. Each option will be different in each situation.

Examine the options of a woman in an abusive relationship. I fear that women in violent relationships have no desire to seek help or talk about your problems. It is annoying on the sharing of what is happening in your life. The user will convince its victims, anyway for its abuse liability is. This often suffer from a person in an abusive relationship in silence. I want a forum in a safe place for women to share and learn that you are not alone.

I provide in any way, imply that no men live in abusive relationships. This may create a situation seriously daunting for a man. As said a man to his friends as his wife or girlfriend the him until fails or is constantly verbal and emotionally abusive? I believe, there are many more men in these relationships we believe. Because a special stigma by if you admit what happens in your life, silence more. It can also be violence in same sex relationships. However, for the purposes I write in this article as if the author is a man and a woman is the victim.

The first choice in a situation like that tries to change the situation. All tested women many perfectly for your spouse or partner. Browse the egg shells, believe, if only you better, more love, more tender, quieter, more invisible and does step from damaging your man. Many women in abusive relationships is prepared in the life of trying to change the behavior of your partner. Of course this is in vain attempt, because people for someone else to change. Change your current behavior for you and even work sometimes not even close. I could ask a woman, "you are willing to wait for how long it change?". "Have already 10 years, you are ready, passes over ten"? This is a problem that can meet the woman since may provide, maintain their entire lives. It is not for me or someone decide what is best for someone else. Finally, we are not in your skin. We cannot accept that we can in the same situation, but the answer may not respond the person, which pass through it.

The second possible outcome is on leave. In an abusive relationship, would mean that ends the relationship. Many women in abusive relationships leaves afraid because you believe that your partner is to hunt down and kill or at least claim your "property" and force women return. Statistics tell us that more women in abusive relationships are killed in the relationship remain as you can but say that the family of a woman, links and was killed by your husband. Statistics not many can not. Yet once, is whether it would be better for a woman to leave your situation, only for us, but we know what is really better for someone else? You want to carry out this responsibility? Leave, is certainly a viable option, but it is only by women is in the relationship. Organizations are implemented, victims of domestic violence, to escape the violence of their situation, but laws are very difficult when there are children and custody situations concerned. Some women remain, because you leave your children will not. Many remain as committed your said marriage vows, "" disease and health."" Until death we part. "No one can decide to someone else, you must leave your wishes if your highest value." Can I ask a woman if all your options and think about the consequences included each selection. Then, I would ask whether you think that the best option is abandoned and is ready to pay the consequences of this choice. The possible result is leaving preferable, pay in residence of the current situation? The risk is worth it? For some, it is no doubt.

The final choice is to accept. Accept that it differs from the other two options. In the first two options, the woman is changing external circumstances. If you've tried it modifies, attempts to modify the behavior of your partner. It let you is your Exchange situation. Acceptance, but remain in the situation and understand and accept that the other person will not change and that all rights, to find. The woman in an abusive situation would still is that you don't let want and realized that her husband can never change, but decides to suspend decide. This may be your best option for some.

Love the woman in this situation, for those of us, we go through the same choice of three. We can lassen - this would probably mean to stop our relationship, we are unable to see sound in an abusive situation of women. We try, it changes by trying to convince you that man leaves. It is this that many friends and family and sometimes the woman decides, leave. It may decide, with their rejection may not living, said either directly or in the background. Loyalty to their partner may decide not to fix, it is no longer hear your statements against him. What it is your support, not judgments and coercion to someone, let you love. Or we can accept the third choice. This means we just make that this woman to have your own life decisions and the best will, that you can use options are for him. They are your friend and supports your and their decisions, recognize that you also cannot replace or him.

If you suspect that you or someone of domestic violence is involved in, please go to www.therelationshipcenter.biz. It y has security means to discuss the situation, and some are f R e e mail Kim Olver to kim@therelationshipcenter.biz, enter your room chat hours of scheduled conversation posted to your calendar or you call 708-957-6047.