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I guess that you should not preach Juan...

Funny story but when I was in MN, I hung out with a dude named DD, my dude from way back.  We were hosting a small soiree at our pad and we hang out with Juan Williams’ son.  Needless to say, that dude liked to party, which made him aces in my book.

At our party, there were always all types at the party.  We didn’t discriminate based on politics, only on your party quotient.  If you brought something to the party, then we wanted you around.  At our spots, politics were not really discussed, so your political identity  normally got checked at the door, with the coats.

Looking at the Juan Williams situation, the terrorists have clearly won.  The inability to express your beliefs is the hallmark of a totalitarian regime.  If we can’t discuss our feelings, then covert racism will rule the day.

By Matea Gold

Tribune Washington Bureau

12:35 PM PDT, October 21, 2010

Reporting from Washington

As NPR weathered a storm of criticism Thursday for its decision to fire news analyst Juan Williams for his comments about Muslims, Fox News moved aggressively to turn the controversy to its advantage by signing Williams to an expanded role at the cable news network.

Fox News Chief Executive Roger Ailes handed Williams a new three-year contract Thursday morning, in a deal that amounts to nearly $2 million, a considerable bump up from his previous salary, the Tribune Washington Bureau has learned. The Fox News contributor will now appear exclusively and more frequently on the cable news network and have a regular column on FoxNews.com.

“Juan has been a staunch defender of liberal viewpoints since his tenure began at Fox News in 1997,” Ailes said in a statement, adding a jab at NPR: “He’s an honest man whose freedom of speech is protected by Fox News on a daily basis.”

The worst part about this is that it allows FOX to come off as the reasonable party here.  For once, I have to agree with FOX here.  While they are not really fair and balanced reporting in any sense of the phrase, the ability to paint a picture of intolerance to set up another, major point is necessary in discussion.  His beliefs are ones that others share and he was talking about how to combat and recognize that subconscious discrimination.

Meanwhile, conservative leaders lambasted NPR for firing Williams and called for cutting public funding for the media organization. By midafternoon Thursday, more than 4,900 comments had been posted on NPR.org, including many from people who said the media organization was bowing to political correctness and unfairly punishing Williams for expressing his personal opinions.

“In one arrogant move the NPR exposed itself for the leftist thought police they really are,” read one typical post. “After this November elections I hope one of the first things the new Congress does is to defund this poor excuse for public radio.”

NPR serves a public good, a necessary purpose.  I want them to re-examine their hiring practices, I want them to bow less to political correctness, but I want them on the radio.  Just like NPR overreacted to this situation, the public needs to take a step back, take a deep breath and then keep it moving.

The controversy kicked off Monday night when Williams, a Fox News contributor, made an appearance on “The O’Reilly Factor.” In a conversation with host Bill O’Reilly about how fear of terrorism affects perceptions of Muslims, Williams noted that he harbored some anxieties, even as an author of books about the civil rights movement.

“I mean, look, Bill, I’m not a bigot….But when I get on a plane, I got to tell you, if I see people who are in Muslim garb and I think, you know, they’re identifying themselves first and foremost as Muslims, I get worried. I get nervous,” Williams said.

He also noted that it was not fair to cast all Muslims as extremists.

On Wednesday, NPR told Williams it was terminating his contract, saying his remarks “were inconsistent with our editorial standards and practices, and undermined his credibility as a news analyst with NPR.”

The abrupt break came after years in which Williams’ role at Fox News caused internal tension at the public radio organization. Many NPR listeners registered complaints about comments he made on the cable news channel, particularly remarks last year in which he described First Lady Michelle Obama as having “this Stokely Carmichael in a designer dress thing going” and saying she could become “an albatross.”

In response, NPR executives asked Williams to request Fox News not identify him as an NPR analyst when he appeared on “The O’Reilly Factor.”

Dana Davis Rehm, NPR’s senior vice president for communications, said in an interview that Williams’ comments violated internal ethics policies that prohibit NPR journalists from going on other media and expressing “views they would not air in their role as an NPR journalist.” The guidelines also prohibit NPR journalists from participating in programs “that encourage punditry and speculation rather than fact-based analysis.”

Isn’t it a fact that Juan felt that way?  He is analyzing his personal beliefs and how that colors some of the things that he thinks about, and he even claims that approach is wrong.  NPR is really asking him to lie about what he thinks.  If it really is National Public Radio, then the some in the Public think the same things.  Exposure can only help, since it leads to discussion that might help people to recognize the other side and have more tolerance.

Rehm said Williams had been warned several times in the past about making personal comments that violated the policy.

“This wasn’t the first time where we felt Juan crossed the line in terms of what’s permitted for NPR analysts and journalists as a whole,” she said. “We felt we really didn’t have an alternative. And it was not without regret, and it was not a decision that was made lightly by any means. We do appreciate the work he has done.”

Williams told Fox News on Thursday that he was let go over the phone and taken aback that he wasn’t given a chance to defend himself.

“It’s not a bigoted statement,” he told Fox News in an interview the cable news network ran throughout the day. “In fact, in the course of this conversation with Bill O’Reilly, I said we have an obligation as Americans to be careful to protect the constitutional rights of everyone in our country and to make sure that we don’t have any outbreak of bigotry. But that there’s a reality. You cannot ignore what happened on 9/11, and you cannot ignore the connection to Islamic radicalism, and you can’t ignore the fact of what has even recently been said in court with regard to this is the first drop of blood in a Muslim war in America.”

Fox News made the most of the incident, rerunning a package about the controversy throughout the day. Williams was scheduled to appear on “The O’Reilly Factor” Thursday night to further address the issue and will guest host the program Friday.

In the meantime, NPR was slammed by conservative leaders such as Newt Gingrich and Sarah Palin, who tweeted, “NPR defends 1st Amendment Right, but will fire u if u exercise it. Juan Williams: u got taste of Left’s hypocrisy, they screwed up firing you.”

NPR, if you really are defenders of the left, why would you give them this ammunition?

Former Arkansas Gov. Mike Huckabee, who hosts a show on Fox News, said he now plans to boycott NPR and decline its interview requests.

“NPR has discredited itself as a forum for free speech and a protection of the First Amendment rights of all and has solidified itself as the purveyor of politically correct pabulum and protector of views that lean left,” Huckabee wrote on his blog, adding: “It is time for the taxpayers to start making cuts to federal spending, and I encourage the new Congress to start with NPR.”

NPR receives no direct federal funding for its operations, but between 1% and 3% of its $160-million budget comes from competitive grants awarded by publicly funded entities such as the Corporation for Public Broadcasting and the National Endowment for the Arts. Since 2009, NPR has received $8 million in competitive grants from the CPB for technology development and journalism initiatives. It also received a one-time grant of $78 million between 2007 and 2009 to upgrade satellite technology.

Local NPR stations receive $90 million in annual appropriations from the CPB that amount to about 10% of their revenue, on average.

Rehm said it was inappropriate for politicians to interject the issue of federal funding into an editorial decision, adding that she hoped the controversy would not affect financial support for public radio. “Stations are in fund-raising season,  so it is unfortunate that this occurred at this time,” she said.

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Dealing With An Abusive Relationship

"No man is worth your tears. And the one who is won't make you cry." -Brian Littrell

Physical and emotional abuse can very easily cause deep permanent damage to an individual. What's unfortunate about the situation is that you live in fear of daily abuse but still stay in the relationship. You find yourself covering up the marks, crying through the hurtful words, and making excuses for him. Abusive relationships originate from anger and him establishing a sense of control. Then before you know it he controls every cent you make and how much you spend. Now you're there feeling completely trapped and dependent on him with no way out.

It can only be his fault for so long though. You have to get yourself out. A verbally abusive relationship is just as bad as a physical one. They both will lead to psychological issues. So you can't ignore the warning signs. The verbal and emotional abuse will quickly escalate to physical harm. All he can do after the damage is done is say sorry and make promises to never do it again. Once that point is reached you can't listen to any of those lies because history is just going to repeat itself.

It doesn't matter how much you love him, you have to love yourself more and know that you don't deserve that hurt. You will get what you tolerate and the longer you stay the harder it will be to get out. Don't let him break you and make you believe that everything is your fault. There are so many people and organizations out there to help you. They help women find a way to get out of the destructive environments they are currently in. "Statistics states that on average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day." If you're in a verbally or physically abusive relationship or see your current relationship heading that direction please seek the help you need so you aren't the next victim to add to this statistic. Take care of yourself ladies because if he's not willing to seek the help he needs for his abusive ways then your only option is to leave. The biggest sign is your friends and family; if they're constantly telling you something doesn't look or feel right about him then they're probably right. Below I have a domestic violence hotline number and a few websites to read about the signs of an abusive partner and other ways to get out. My prayers are with you. Be Blessed!

Here are some resources for those that need help dealing with an abusive relationship Relationship Help Desk specializes in answering all the tough relationship questions and giving expert relationship advice.

What to Do If You Are in an Abusive Relationship

If you have been trying to figure out what to do if you are in an abusive relationship, the tips outlined in this article will help you. But, you must be ready to invest in yourself to learn new techniques, strategies and methods to deal with your future relationships.

One author rightly pointed out that Satan is the enemy, not the person you are dealing with. The real battle is against the forces of wickedness. (See Ephesians 6: 12). Satan wants you to think it is your battle alone, and act like you are separate from God. No. The battle is the Lord's. (1 Samuel 17: 47). He is in it with you.

So, what should you do in an abusive relationship?

1. Pray for your abusive spouse. People who continually hurt or abuse others are in bondage to their own sin. While that in no way excuses them, it gives you insight into how to pray for them. God intended these relationships for good, but they are undermined by alcohol, anger, and other counterfeits Satan uses to destroy fellowship and family. Pray for your abusive spouse to become the person God intended.

2. Take a firm stand. You may need group support and a mediator present for an intervention. God's light can penetrate the deepest darkness with hope, restoration and reconciliation, and when that happens, it is a quicker path to healing. Nevertheless, you need to take a firm stand, and if need be, get others to help.

3. Ask God, "Should I stay or go?" It would be naive to suggest that an intervention, sprinkled with prayer, will suddenly change everything. Some people respond to confrontation; some are melted by God's love. But many remain toxic and abusive, even when confronted in love, forgiven, and drenched in grace. You may need to end the relationship, as difficult as that may be.

Remember, it is not your job to change an abusive spouse, and it is not a failure on your part if they do not change, even when they are confronted with God's love and truth.

If you need additional resources on what to do if you are in an abusive relationship, then check out this helpful site. You will find inspirations that will help you fix your relationship.

Understanding Abusive Relationships - 5 Benefits of Learning to Identify Intimate Partner Abuse

If you have read my writing, you may know me as someone who encourages people to recognize intimate partner violence. But, I wonder if you know why I'm so steadfast about this.

Learn to Meditate Is Like Learn to Mate

I'm reminded of the days when I taught biofeedback and meditation to individuals in my psychotherapy practice. It seemed like no matter who walked through that door, whether they had high blood pressure, irritable bowel syndrome, fibromyalgia, migraines, insomnia, anxiety, panic attacks or depression, I always opened the door for a discussion that ultimately led to three little words: Learn to Meditate!

People came into my practice wanting symptom reduction and walked out of my practice with life enhancement on top of symptom reduction. I'm telling you this little story because it's the same with my pervasive message of: Learn to Identify Intimate Partner Violence.

The Benefits of Learning to Identify Intimate Partner Abuse

Let me elaborate. You see, it's not only that you will be better able to recognize a bully or identify your circumstances as fulfilling the criteria of intimate partner violence or not. Oh no, it's much more than that.

When you learn to identify intimate partner violence, here's what also happens over time.

1) You know how to prevent an abusive relationship from developing

2) You know how to arrest an abusive relationship in the moment

3) You know how to avoid abusive relationships before they begin

4) You bring into focus the flip-side of partner abuse, and from here you can clearly pursue it

5) Ultimately for most people that's exactly what they want...a loving intimate relationship characterized by mutual honor, respect and support.

If you have the occasion to understand this dynamic and plan to have an intimate relationship, you owe it to your self to understand the silent insidious syndrome of intimate partner abuse before it sneaks up out of nowhere and catches you by surprise.

For more insights and information about identifying domestic abuse visit http://www.IsThisAbuse.com and claim your free Survivor Success Tips and eInsights. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps people worldwide recognize, end and heal from domestic abuse at home and in court. ?2008 Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Battered but

"" Yes ", you can cross-post the message. It is not necessary to anonymous, people might think it was a woman, and this is something that I would want to avoid. As a victim of spousal abuse of my former marriage partner, why not I have left? Go to a shelter? Get help anywhere? First, I loved my ex-spouse. Although it had a problem with violence, there was more to this than just the abusive behavior. I tried to work out the problem. Did not want to admit that "he had a problem" [today also some-thing many women's groups refuse].

Secondly, I love my children. I felt that an active parent who I could moderately or distract of abuse that can have on children. Today, it is for adults. But I know that the courts not a man to give a fair shake when it comes to books. A man may not be a good father to child care, must prove that his mother is incompetent.

This makes only a more adversarial situation on both sides and we know that the single biggest Predictor of emotional and causes problems in children is open hostile conflict between parents. I Was reluctant to go to bat "for my children as would threptikotitas the most negative behavior. By staying in an abusive relationship, I was able to assure myself that I have access to my children and I will see that there is another way a relationship with the parent.

Thirdly, there is a stigma on male victims of spousal abuse that penetrates all our field. I Had a discussion with male Professor at a University [in family section] who refused to believe that a woman abuse could be. Try to speak as a male victim to others that you are a victim of this kind of behavior and responses like this, or comments which get: "wimp", or "why don't I get as a man", or "you need to keep a person or they don't do", or "to" must abuse.

These are some of the comments were raised by people in our area. How can I expect to have some form of understanding of people who were not supposed to understand of the families [police, etc.]. When I met some people in this area is still very understanding and confusing for me on both personal and professional level.

Fourthly, there are very few programs [any] is designed to help battered women

Fifthly, even when researchers data sets that the problem of domestic violence and the formation of a theoretical framework that is not biased [or blind use] could lighten, they get attacked by the more radical, extremist political agendas of groups want to stop, hide or simply ignore the issue by focusing only on "real" victims of spousal abuse.

The political agenda of these different groups to say that I can only look at one type of abuse [because they are "more important"]. While some a lip service to the topic of male victims, rarely, if ever the issue without discussing the revictimizing of men who have experienced abuse. Where is the "ethic of care" that?

The betrayal of a privileged theoretical assumption to maintain a blindsightedness because it does not meet their political agenda makes me extremely suspicious of such groups. It seems to have been able to and will remain free blind, intolerant and cumbersome than admit that their policy agenda is driving their theory and research.

Family violence, or is committed by the man or woman, about an adult man or woman [or child, either male or female] is wrong.

However, in an attempt to determine why this is happening and why people stay in abusive relationships are too complex. Most of the reasoning, research help and content is still blind to the issue of male victims.

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Warning Signs of Your Abusive Boyfriend - Are You a Victim?

"Gosh...!! Look at him, how charming and considerate he is! He is the only one that I have ever desired." This is what we usually think when we come across someone who is charismatic and thoughtful. And we end up falling head over heels in love with him knowing very little of the demon that he has inside him.

We would overlook his jealousy and possessiveness thinking to be his way of expressing, how much he wants me and loves me, feeling on top of the world, until the day all hell breaks lose and we get to see the other side of him. We come in touch with someone, whom we have never known, a complete contrast of the person we had deeply fallen in love with. And standing right, there we see our world, which we have weaved with utmost love and care falling apart.

Thus, we begin to doubt about our safety and security in the company of that person, in whose embrace, we once found warmth and comfort. So, before taking the extreme step, knowing the person and his character traits is important, so that we don't end up spending our lives with an abuser in an abusive relationship.

Here are a set of questions which would help you to identify the personality and character of your boyfriend, whether he is likely to become an abuser or not :

1) Does your boyfriend often get jealous of you, your friends, your career and your success? Does he get jealous whenever you talk to your male friends? Does your boyfriend often accuse you of having an affair with others?

2) Does he try to dominate you to the extent of controlling on deciding what you wear and how your hair style should be? Does he treat you as if you are inferior to him? Does he force you to consider him to be the top priority of your life and obey him?

3) Has he ever abused you verbally in front of his friends and family? Does he go to the extent of hitting you for no fault of yours? Does he often threaten you with death?

4) Has your boyfriend ever committed violent crimes against others which may prove fatal? Has he ever thrown or strike or hit objects at you? Is he violent towards children and animals?

5) Does he isolate you from your friends and families? Does he always blame you for his faults and bad luck? Does he always make you feel that you are at fault? he might try to make you feel guilty for no fault of yours.

6) Is he addicted to drugs or alcohols? Sometimes a person becomes violent when he is under the influence of drugs and began to hurt others.

7) An abusive person often has a dual character. He might pretend to be very soothing and understanding than he really is in front of others.

8) His mood fluctuates every now and then. And he gets angry very fast and is generally very aggressive.

9) At one moment he will make you feel on top of the world and in the next minute he would demoralize you and throw you in a trash can.

10) He may forcibly let you do something which you do not want to do. For example he might use his physical strength to prevent you from leaving the room or may even force you to have sexual intercourse.

If you see these traits in your boyfriend's behavior then most likely your relationship is heading towards an abusive relationship. And you need to seek help and guidance from Professional counselor. You need to pay attention to the warning signs however whether you want to continue staying in the relationship or end it abruptly is going to be your own decision.

Now, after going through all the warning signs that your boyfriend is abusing you, what you need is the guidance on how to tackle with such a situation. So, here are the tips on, how to end an abusive relationship.

For more on relationship problems and their improvement, visit my website www.top54u.com

Why High-conflict, misused women try to destroy the Christmas holiday season

There is a new article on http://www.shrink4men.com/explores common behavior of abusive men with Christmas and possible explanations for their behavior and attempts to holidays and other special occasions to destroy.

Here's the link:

Why offensive, destroy High-conflict, personality-disordered women frequent Christmas

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