What to Do If You Are in an Abusive Relationship

If you have been trying to figure out what to do if you are in an abusive relationship, the tips outlined in this article will help you. But, you must be ready to invest in yourself to learn new techniques, strategies and methods to deal with your future relationships.

One author rightly pointed out that Satan is the enemy, not the person you are dealing with. The real battle is against the forces of wickedness. (See Ephesians 6: 12). Satan wants you to think it is your battle alone, and act like you are separate from God. No. The battle is the Lord's. (1 Samuel 17: 47). He is in it with you.

So, what should you do in an abusive relationship?

1. Pray for your abusive spouse. People who continually hurt or abuse others are in bondage to their own sin. While that in no way excuses them, it gives you insight into how to pray for them. God intended these relationships for good, but they are undermined by alcohol, anger, and other counterfeits Satan uses to destroy fellowship and family. Pray for your abusive spouse to become the person God intended.

2. Take a firm stand. You may need group support and a mediator present for an intervention. God's light can penetrate the deepest darkness with hope, restoration and reconciliation, and when that happens, it is a quicker path to healing. Nevertheless, you need to take a firm stand, and if need be, get others to help.

3. Ask God, "Should I stay or go?" It would be naive to suggest that an intervention, sprinkled with prayer, will suddenly change everything. Some people respond to confrontation; some are melted by God's love. But many remain toxic and abusive, even when confronted in love, forgiven, and drenched in grace. You may need to end the relationship, as difficult as that may be.

Remember, it is not your job to change an abusive spouse, and it is not a failure on your part if they do not change, even when they are confronted with God's love and truth.

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