Relationship Problems - Is Your Relationship Abusive?

Have you had your share of rocky road relationships? Do you feel you are on the short end of the stick as far as your current relationship is concerned? Do you suspect you have you become a victim? If so, then listen up and take notice! It's sad to say in this day and age chances are very high that either someone you know and love - or you yourself - are in or have been in an abusive relationship.

There are many types of abusive relationships and the numbers are growing at a rapid pace. You should know that both emotional and physical abuse can be destructive and the scars make take years to heal. The problem with abuse is that most relationships don't begin in an abusive nature. Many times, things start off just fine and there are subtle shifts along the way. It is a sort of silent reprogramming until the abuser feels confident that they can control the relationship. The victim often doesn't see it coming.

In most cases, by the time the abuse becomes recognizable, the victim has been so brainwashed that she or he (men can also be victims of abusive relationships) doesn't recognize the actions as abuse and actually takes the blame for his or her predicament.

Once an emotional attachment has occurred, the victims often can't be convinced that they're experiencing abuse. They are so busy justifying the behavior of the abuser; they don't see the relationship for what it is.

In many cases, the embarrassment along with quite a bit of denial makes it hard to admit they have allowed this to happen. But if you recognize some of the following patterns in your own relationship, it's quite possible that you are in fact, a victim of abuse.

Abusive relationships are often marked by several disturbing behaviors:

· Extreme Jealousy

· Verbal put downs and abuse

· Punishing or withholding from you emotionally

· Exposure to frequent rages

· Blames you for almost everything that goes wrong

· Rough or abusive sex

· Cheating or infidelity

· Numerous Lies (some are outrageous in nature)

· Controlling Behavior

· Physical violence (beatings)

· Public and Private Humiliation

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From Bj Moorer and http://www.RelationshipAdviceHeadquarters.com