Lynne Gold-Bikin is the founder of Family Law's Commission on Domestic Violence. She tells the New York Daily News, "A victim is often alienated from friends and family by the abuser, and if someone says something to her about the abuse, she may not listen."
It could be any number of reasons why they refuse to listen. It can be anything from love to just complete and effective manipulation by the abuser. If the abuse victim does finally realize what is going on trying can prove to be very dangerous.
The relationship may start off as love and romance personified but it is crucial that you be aware from the beginning of any potential signs of an abusive relationship.
1 Where Did You Go?
It was never really a problem in any relationship you had. It was understood that both parties from time to time need their space. Not this time. Your significant other wants to know your whereabouts at all times. And they are very insistent about it.
2. Who Were You Talking To And Why?
They see you talking to someone they do not know and now here comes the cross examination. What were the two of you taking about? Your significant other's body language and tone of voice lets you know they are very upset.
It can even be someone they know but they are angry because they did not "authorize" you to carry on a conversation.
3 They Decide and That's Final
In certain matters you have no problem with your significant other taking the lead and making a decision. They seem to enjoy it and its no sweat off your brow.
However on those rare occasions when you do make a suggestion about what to do and where to go they do not take it well. Either they sit there stewing and adamantly refuse to do what you suggest. Or they fly into a rage and explain in very strong terms that the two of you are going to do exactly what they want and they need no advice from you or anyone else when it comes to making decisions.
For more information on abusive relationships please visit The Relationship Tip. Article written by Daryl Campbell.
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