Abusive relationships are a very difficult situation for any person to find themselves in. The facts about abusive relationships are not as well known to people as they should be. Abusive relationships can be verbally abusive, emotionally abusive, and/or physically abusive. Victims of abuse are typically women, but men are increasingly reporting abuse. All forms of abuse occur in all ethnic or socio-economic groups.
Warning Signs
Some of the warning signs of a person who can become abusive are people who feel wronged by world, feel that everything is everyone else's fault, have a history of physical aggression, who have significant issues of anger management, have a history of drug or alcohol abuse, or feel special entitlement to preferential treatment from others.
Escalation of Abuse
Typically, the abuser begins by controlling the victim's time, relationships, and money. The abuser will complain about the time and attention that the victim's children, extended family, friends, or job receives. The abuser will complain, pout, and find ways to emotionally punish the victim. Some examples of these punishments can be hiding the victim's car keys to prevent the victim from going out with friends, or backing out at the last minute on agreeing to watch the children so that the victim cannot work. Abusers will also start to control money in the relationship and demand receipts for all purchases. The abuser will also put down the physical appearance of the victim, and tell the victim that he or she is fat or ugly. The abuser will often belittle the abilities of the victim, tell him or her that they do not measure up, or are incapable of doing everyday tasks, such as cooking or shopping.
Other abusers will become convinced that their partner is cheating on them and will insist that the victim account for every moment of time. The abuser may spy on the victim, follow the victim, or check the victim's cell phone bills. Physical abuse often begins with these emotional tactics, and then the abuser will perform small acts of physical domination, such as shoving or pushing. Oftentimes, before the victim is really aware of it, these acts escalate into major physical abuse.
Breaking Away
One of the most important facts about abusive relationships is how hard is is to leave one. The abuser will often go through cycles of abuse that are followed by remorse and apology so that the victim starts to feel that the abuser really will change. The victim beings to trust the abuser, and then something happens to trigger the abuse again. The victim also tends to blame himself or herself for making the abuser angry. Abusers also tend to be so emotionally manipulative that he or she is very good at convincing the victim that the abuser has changed. It takes a good deal of support and intervention for the victim to leave permanently. Knowing the facts about abusive relationships can make it easier to avoid them, and to leave before it is too late.
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