No matter how hard it may be to lose your ex to another it is even more painful when they are involved in an abusive situation and you are not sure how to rescue them. Not only are you longer the center of their life but the person they are with are just plain bad news. No one deserves to be treated carelessly.
Even if your primary goal is not to get your ex back you certainly don't want to see them involved in a demoralizing relationship. Don't just set back judging her poor choice, decide to do something about it. You need to make sure she understands she deserves better from someone, especially someone that she professes to love. Convincing her that you are only looking out for her with no alternative motives may proof a little tricky. Be sure you are not doing it for you own selfish gain. No matter the reasons, the bottom line is she needs some help.
Often people involved in these type of relationships really don't want to be rescued and see it as their due. However if the relationship appears to be one in which she could be physically in danger you need to do all within your power to make her understand this.
Sometimes people fall into a pattern of accepting abusive behavior. You may just prove to be a safe haven for her should she ever need one. Let her know you can be trusted. If in the past you had a good relationship then she will be keen to listen to you. If you were not the most stellar boyfriend do whatever you can to show her you turned over a new leaf. Once she perceives she can lean on you she will be ready to heed your advice. Show her through your actions that she deserves kind treatment. Abusive people depend on belittling others and she may have come to believe she deserves unfair treatment. Remember her self esteem has suffered because of being mistreated.
Even if you have no romantic concerns for her, just for old time's sake she deserves better treatment. Showing her that she needs rescuing with no strings attached will help put her mind at ease. If you do still have feelings for her keep those in confidence as you may only make things worse for her. Often the abusive person will become very possessive and may hurt her even further. Their jealous streaks run long and deep. It they sense a lack of control they may spiral into more dangerous behavior patterns.
Above all else value her safety first. She is in trouble and needs your help. Don't turn away from her. Sure things could get ugly but you need to step up to the plate.
Not only is there a chance you may get her back, you may even save her life.
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