What You Can Do to Help Someone in an Abusive Relationship

What can you do if someone you know is in an abusive relationship?

The first thing to realize is that the best option for anyone is to leave an abusive relationship. Leaving is the only real solution to this problem. Any other solution is not very good. Even if the abuser somehow has a radical awakening and becomes nice, the hurt the person went through will stay with them forever.

The best help is to strongly encourage them to leave and support them.

So the way to help someone is to tell them you think they should leave their abuser. You tell them you care about them and will help in whatever way you can. Be honest with how much you can help. Maybe they could stay with you for a few days. Maybe you could give them some money to tide them over. Maybe you can come to their house and remove them from the abuser.

The least you can do is to point them towards articles like this and books that explain how harmful it is to be abused. Every person deserves to live a good life free from abuse and information from people like me who were abused, who lived to talk about it and are so much better for leaving help.

You can tell the person that their life will be better after leaving. That is the truth.

I was married to a verbally abusive woman who I eventually had to leave. The way I was able to get strong enough to leave was to continuously read about verbal and mental abuse and how it was so harmful to a person. I read articles like this on the internet and books at the bookstore and the library.

When a person is being verbally abused they are just trying to survive. Thinking about all the possibilities in life does not hold very much meaning because the day-to-day pain of being verbally abused causes depression and a sense of dread and anxiety. Life is just not that good.

You can forward them the links to these types of articles. Please be careful with this. If the abuser sees this they will make the abused persons life more miserable. You really have to be careful. An abusive person is not a normal, nice person. They have issues and you do not know what they are capable of.

About the Author:

Hans Hallanger is The Organized Man. Check out the link http://www.organized-way.com/leave-your-wife.html to learn more about the eBook "How to Leave Your Wife."