Relationships require effort and commitment on the part of both partners to succeed. If both partners are emotionally healthy and balanced, this work goes far in ensuring a mutually fulfilling, supportive relationship. However, there are some relationships in which one or both partners are not balanced or healthy, and in which there is a very unhealthy dynamic. If the relationship becomes emotionally damaging and costly, it can turn toxic. Here are 3 signs that your relationship has reached the point of toxicity:
1. There is any kind of abuse in the relationship. Physical abuse often escalates over time and is extremely dangerous. Please contact a domestic violence shelter or counselor who specializes in domestic violence issues to make a plan to get out of your particular situation. The most dangerous time for women who is with an abuser is at the time of leaving. If there is emotional and psychological abuse, this too can be very toxic and damaging. This kind of abuse, filled with blatant or subtle criticisms, can leave you feeling worthless, inferior, incompetent, depressed, and even crazy. If you feel controlled by your partner, dependent, or as if you can't win your partner's approval, you may a victim of emotional abuse.
2. Your partner is in the throes of untreated addiction. If your partner is not being treated for his or her addiction, you are constantly placed in a position behind their drug of choice. Along with siphoning a great deal of your emotional energy off in dealing with their various substance induced crises, chances are your addicted partner is not fully present in the relationship. On a practical level, you may be setting yourself up for legal and financial troubles from their behavior (DUI's, personal injury, or even murder charges against your partner for killing someone while drinking or drugging).
3. Your partner commits serial infidelity. This act continually destroys all trust between you and leaves you nothing upon which to build a relationship. If you stay in this situation, you are setting yourself up for betrayal and torment. Your mind and energy will constantly revolve around what your partner is doing, who he or she is with, etc. In addition, you are risking your very health staying with someone in a non-monogamous relationship.
Are you interested in addressing your life challenges from a holistic standpoint, assessing the physical, emotional, and relationship components?
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Shannon Cook is a personal growth and relationship expert who has written a number of informative articles and ebooks on the topic of toxic relationships and holistic personal growth, including physical, emotional and relationship health.
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