If you are in a relationship where you feel confused and lost, you probably need to learn ways of understanding your troubled relationship so that you can decide to save it or abandon it. Sometimes when we are too caught up in the events of our lives and relationship, we tend to lose sight on what is important to us and what are bad for us. So here I will help you understand your troubled relationship and explore if there is a way to save it.
#1: You are in an abusive relationship
I am not being biased here but usually when people are in an abusive, physical or emotional, relationship my advice to them is to get out of it if they have not or abandon it if they are already out. Because if your partner is abusive, it is very difficult for him or her to change in the short term. These abusive behaviours are imprinted in them every since childhood so for them to change for the better, the both of you will need a huge amount of time, effort and perseverance to make things work out.
However, if your choice is to stay with the man or woman of your dreams. It isn't impossible for things to work out well. And like I said, you need to have plenty of patience, tolerance and perseverance during this process because it is likely that you may still get abused during this period of time.
How you can save it is to let your partner know that if this relationship is ever going to work out, he or she has to promise that he or she will change. (In words and in actions) Let your partner know that changing and taking away their abusive self is the only way you will make peace with the past and carry on living happily together. With that said, do not simply rush back into the relationship. Take things a day at a time and let your partner show you that he or she is really repentant about his or her ways before getting back together with your ex. This could take months or years for you to feel their sincerity but since they are the ones who hurt you, it is their duty to constantly assure you (in words and in action) that they have changed for the better.
When you feel ready to accept them again, it is time to accept them. However, I must let you know that there is a possibility of their abusive nature to suffer a relapse and you have to be prepared for it.
#2: Your partner is not that into you
If your partner is not that into you, it is a rather tricky situation to handle. Because you cannot control how your partner feels and to get back that special feeling with him or her will be difficult. The symptoms when your partner is not that into you is when your partner is always busy with 'work' but is still able to make time for his or her friends. Or when your partner is always tired and puts in less effort when talking to you or when the both of you are having sex.
What you can do to save the relationship is to be the one that is just continue being yourself and appreciating every moment you have with the person. Because as I've mentioned earlier, you cannot control his or her feelings and the best you can do is to appreciate any little sweetness in the relationship.
With that said, it is not the end of your relationship! Even if your partner decides to or is thinking about a breakup with you there are additional ways you can save it.
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