We all enter a romantic relationship hoping it will be an addition to our lives, something that will help us grow and be more successful, an experience that will be loving and supportive. Unfortunately, not all relationships serve this function in our lives. With effort, good communication, and commitment, many well balanced and healthy individuals so go on to forge these kinds of relationships with another - but there are certain behaviors that make a satisfying union nearly impossible. While change can be possible for motivated individuals, for partners of people who engage in destructive behaviors as a pattern, the safest and healthiest course of action may be to remove yourself from the relationship. Here are 3 signs it may be time to let go:
1. There is abuse in your relationship. If you are being physically abused, this is very dangerous and is likely to escalate. Please contact a counselor that specializes in domestic violence issues, or a domestic violence shelter to help you come up with a safe plan to exit the relationship. The time of leaving a physically abusive relationship is a very risky time and you need professional guidance. If you are being emotionally abused, this is also very serious and damaging. If your partner seeks to demean and control you as a pattern of behavior, leaving you feeling inferior or even crazy, you may be a victim of emotional abuse.
2. Your partner is actively engaged in an addiction, such as drugs or alcohol. If your partner is actively using, you will be on the back burner as your partner seeks to feed the addiction. There are likely to be repeated crises related to your partner's addiction, and frequently your partner will simply not be fully available in the relationship. You can be impacted by legal and financial fallout, such as DUI's, personal injury, and even charges related to a death if it is caused by poor judgment while your partner is using. You may be endangered if, for example, you get in a car with your partner after he or she has been using, and you have an accident.
3. There is repeated infidelity in the relationship. While a relationship can survive infidelity if both partners are recommitted and improve communication and accountability, if your partner continues to destroy trust and cheat, there is no foundation upon which to build a healthy relationship. You are likely to be consumed by the emotional damage that continues to accumulate. In addition, you are risking your own life and health by continuing to be sexually intimate with someone who is acting out sexually with others.
Are you interested in addressing your life challenges from a holistic standpoint, assessing the physical, emotional, and relationship components?
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Shannon Cook is a personal coach and resource guide who has written a number of informative articles and ebooks on the topic of toxic relationships and holistic personal growth, including physical, emotional and relationship health.
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