Men in an Abusive Relationship

I think people stay in abusive relationships because over time they get used to it. A person gets used to being abused and thinks that it is normal.

Well, it is not.

What helped me to realize that the verbal abuse I suffered under from my wife was not normal was reading about how it was not normal.

I never talked to anyone about how she was treating me until I had read about it and started to think that I was being abused.

I was so ashamed to be in the situation I was in.

What gave me strength was reading articles on-line and books in the bookstore and library. The stuff I read was how being treated badly was not good for a person.

This may seem obvious to you if you have never been abused, but if you are being abused or have been you will know what I mean.

Without your mind being right you will never leave. You will just take the abuse until one of you dies.

I was lucky, I had just enough free time to read all about the different problems in an abusive relationship and take them to heart. I did do this over a period of years though. I suffered all that time. I do not want you to spend years in a bad marriage. I want you to get out now.

Read this article and others like it. You do not have to stay in an abusive relationship.

Let my suffering be my gift to you.

I did not want to write about or talk about the verbal abuse I went through.

But I had to tell my story and provide my guidance to other men in the hope that my struggle in an abusive relationship, my years of misery would help someone.

About the Author:

Hans Hallanger is The Organized Man. Check out the link http://www.organized-way.com/leave-your-wife.html to learn more about the eBook "How to Leave Your Wife."