How to Know If You're in an Abusive Relationship

You may be in an abusive relationship and you don't know it. Many people are in one especially women and children. Very few voice out when something is wrong with their partner. As terrible as it is, one stays in such a situation for the fear of losing support from the partner.

Abuse is in different forms. Here is how to know if you're in an abusive relationship.

o One of the signs of abuse is when you give up on what you enjoy doing in order to please your partner. Unfortunately, most women think they have to submit to a man. The moment you start doing things so that the other one doesn't get upset with you, there's a problem. You'll then get frustrated and eventually lose interest in the relationship.

o Do you find yourself lying about your partner's behavior? Does he beat you or throw things at you when he's angry and all you do is keep quiet? I did that for many years. It is hard to get help because you want people to think you've a perfect relationship and everything is fine. Just ask yourself how long you'll go on like that. When this happens, seek help immediately. The earlier you deal with the problem the better.

o I don't know about you, but I find it very unfair when you can't express your opinion to your partner. You can't sit and talk about anything. All the decisions are made by one person. I understand that certain decisions can be made by the man but even then you both have to agree.

o Jealousy and possessiveness. You should know when this is acceptable and when it is not. A jealous man will make you feel like you're in jail because your privacy will soon be invaded. Jealousy becomes a problem when you're not allowed to see your friends, relatives or go out by yourself. Take nothing lightly.

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Signs of an Abusive Relationship - 6 Points of Inquiry to See If You're in an Abusive Relationship

It's no secret that we see what we project. And when it comes to intimate partner abuse, doing so can have repercussions for all of us.

Prior abuse in one's life can set the stage for misinterpretations of our adult partner's actions, intentions, feelings and relationship to us.

Now this doesn't mean that when one comes from some type of childhood abuse that perceived intimate partner abuse, or even "controlling" behavior, isn't real. As we also know there is a greater likelihood of prior childhood abuse (whether emotional, verbal, physical or sexual) for individuals in adult abusive relationships.



Properly Identifying "Intimate Partner Violence"

What it does mean is that when abuse is felt, one ought to ask themselves:

1) What do I see in my relationship?

2) What do I feel in my relationship?

3) How has this relationship impacted my thoughts, feelings, and behavior relative to myself?

4) How has this relationship impacted my thoughts, feelings, and behavior relative to my partner?

5) How do other people see my partner in general?

6) And, how do they see my partner in relation to me?

The wealth of information that comes forth in such an inquiry can help one parse out "intimate partner violence" from the backdrop of their individual personal history.

It will also help the victim recognize the constellation of symptoms that define intimate partner violence. And this will arm them with insight on how to recognize the "red flags" of intimate partner abuse. With this knowledge, one can stop guessing and instantly begin to properly manage and treat their current circumstances.

Impact of Improperly Assuming "Intimate Partner Violence"

As far as the repercussions of inaccurately defining abuse...brace yourself for the enormous impact on all of us: oneself, one's partner, and the public in general.

For oneself: Improperly defining a condition prevents one from seeing what they are actually dealing with and consequently prevents remedy.

For one's partner: Improperly accusing one of being an abuser falsely labels another person socially and/or psychologically.

For society at large: Making accusations of domestic abuse or allegations of abuse, especially in the break-up phase of a relationship, casts doubt in the public when domestic abuse victims do bring forth the courage to reach out. And when there is doubt, legitimate help may not be forth coming.

Domestic abuse is not a subject to take lightly, nor is it a condition to self-diagnose. Rather it is a real relationship problem that requires objective and accurate identification.

If you suspect that you're dealing with the signs of an abusive relationship, but are not quite sure if your experience fulfills the criteria for intimate partner abuse, you may want to check out the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps men and women, worldwide, properly identify intimate partner violence. http://www.PreventAbusiveRelationships.com