Author and life coach David Lamoureaux launches a new Blog

Why what I do

As an author and life coach I am dedicated to helping others that abusive, alcoholic, non-supportive or dysfunctional family relationships have experienced. I think previous experiences help who you are, right now, but they do not define you. So many of us struggle with patterns in unhealthy relationships we have from our childhood and sometimes unhealthy, these patterns are true fulfillment is an obstacle in our lives. My goal is to personal development tools for anyone of any age who live in a dysfunctional or abusive environment lived instead of both the suffering and pain that we can learn for recycling of our past, discover our splendor and pleasure.

This blog was created as a place for me to get my ideas, thoughts, exercises, resources and inspirations in the hope that further stimulated, encouraged and strengthened by the knowledge that your past your part, but not all of you.

I would ask you to join me on my journey of healing, learning and self-exploration. I'm glad you're here.

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Get through the holidays and enjoy them without your abusive Ex-girlfriend or wife

There is a new article of the www.shrink4men.com Kev. who offers tips on how to overcome the Christmas and holidays and other special circumstances without your abusive ex and how we can enjoy them again.

Here's the link:

After a violent relationship: running over Christmas and new year holiday without

With appreciation

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

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Words to hurt ...

Mental or emotional abuse is something that is often overlooked or minimized. In fact, there is a high risk of getting in an abusive relationship. It can go to all or some of the following: manipulation, the other person, blaming put downs, using financial control, using children or their position in the Middle, threats, intimidation and the silent treatment.
If you are one of the above, says that you not only in this State or in pain.
Here are some common red flags:

1. red flag "crazy feeling"
It is common to feel that your "crazy", slavery or just some confusion about whether something is that your own fault, or if you did or said something wrong. The emotional abuse, the other person is usually the responsibility on you or accept responsibility for behaviour there.

2. red flag "feel isolated"
Emotional recovery often try you isolate of family or friends. They can do this by saying that your favorite bad for you. Do you find yourself feeling like you need to explain yourself when you have or you talked about, even if you think that you don't have done something wrong.

3. the red flag "that feeling less than" or that it is never good enough
Abusers often have a false sense of superiority. Perhaps constantly better or more than you know. Insist on the fact that there are no correct answers, or that it is morally and ethically above others. This can leave you feeling less inadequate or incomplete. In fact, it's common for abuse to make others feel better.

4. the red flag-the sense of "controlled"
Detoxification is often jealous of early in the relationship. May feel uncomfortable or threatened by other relationships and feel great discomfort, when speaking to other men or women casually. There may be complaints or fighting around the facts that actually are good. You can feel that you need to explain yourself.

5. feels like your "rights" are not important
Detoxification is often indifferent to your rights or feelings. If the wrong person dating, you find yourself asking whether it was good to say no, it was okay to take a NAP or if it was good to say a few words.
Abuse your dissatisfaction in the country and make your issue is not the love, affection, respect or the fee they need or want to take. As a result your rights or needs or wants a municipal land.

6. feeling-red flag that that relationship is quick, or deep or pressured
Together with the red flags are abusive relationships also part of fast-moving and profound. This factor may feel initially exciting and intoxicating.

It is important to note that the honeymoon is also part of the circle. The honeymoon period of confusion because people often find themselves in the hope that their partner in this place, kindler gentler remains.
Abuse characteristics are often hidden appointment during the game and therefore is more likely to fullforce after a relationship has hardened.

It is more important to be safe to keep yourself, yourself, confidence to stay connected, or connect with things that are most important to you
in your life. Connected to your own true continue will give you the clarity you need.

Lawyers Lockhart Delaune, LCSW
www.therapyneworleans.com

Lawyers Lockhart Delaune is licensed clinical social worker in private practice in the greater New Orleans area.

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Our modest return

03 Jan 2011, of lostintranslation11 abuse, anger!, begin, broken heart, children, choices, daughters, Dave, Ex, life, life lessons, d., mark, move tags: abuse, abusive relationships, blessings, broken heart, DAVE k., disappontment, storing, gratitude, life lessons

I do not know where or how to restart this blog ... However, I know that unless "I", my random pieces – pieces that I love your songs, the origin and any other element in the Middle – will just start to float a gigantic black hole of nothing. And it's like it never happened. maybe even if you did not yet exist in these boxes. Simply, there will be a long frame of life and action, empty of humanity ... filled with nothing but the space around humans: a whole section of a movie void no activity or characters. photographic "yet" shots are performed sequentially, without humanity be appointed.
Once you have returned to my house, that never was. I'm happy to do so and for a moment there, circumstances and events which all pointed to the possibility that they never an unfortunate weakness. So, I'll be back with gratitude ... Gratitude that I had a place to "back" as my gratitude that mass got the ability and resources against the chance to do this in reality.
With the city of sin I lived in a beautiful house with Jasper the cat and my two daughters. We lived about ten kilometers from the children's father. We could go on and for the excellent points our short stay. It was certainly not as terrible, as could be. However, was the father of my children are not the same person you thought was for many years. It was cruel and abusive. What started as addressed to me, it was frustrating and unpleasant and shocking and unwarranted. Shortly after I realized that I was treated like the unwanted step child, I realized quickly that this was not to stop with me. Daddy began late towards our children-the very children who "was moved to tears" that they will live close to him. Will that even I thought it would be workable, as my faith in human beings had come to believe that he was the father. However, when we the flagrant disrespect and dis my sympathy with the treatment of children, our children combine, very quickly I realized that I was powerless to protect my children the same treatment. Without mutual respect our previous relationship, my attempts to intervene on their behalf only led to more huge arguments lack of respect, greater indifference and treatment while … and deteriorated.
I would like very grateful that my children have never seen or heard parents support and grateful that she had no idea of how terribly rude father was capable of treating the mother. After all, this was the reason that these children had never lived in a State of "nuclear family" . I decided when I still babies prefer to grow up in a single mother dysfunction, than with the kind of environment that was their parents who live together as a family exhibit. My choice about the country in order to enable more contact and proximity with their father to move is entirely based on the enormous changes that you had made for himself, his life and character of our early days. Proven, however, that the baby only postponed their exposure to these things for thirteen years and then immediately moved directly into the line of fire to around the very way of life you so proud and wild had protected as.
So, I would like that survived from experience this as their only experience of life up to this point, I understand that some children have ... However, I do not have. I'm mad as hell that I made this choice: mad at me and furiously angry with their father! I don't have such faith and trust in him, my children very well could go their entire life without knowing about any personal level the kind of person the father could be ... and often is. But now they know. And even my efforts with events colors fell into my pink lipstick eyes now too old to fall for these scams. It wasn't long after that I ran, we smoke and mirrors and credible explanations for behaviour.
My gratitude is only now that I was able to successfully remove us from this situation. Not without massive loss ... We had no other choice than to leave our stuff there and leave you with only a few suitcases of clothes. We are satisfied with the Exchange that we thought we could lose our home that if we these things behind. However, when the wrath of our choice to leave the determination of (and more importantly our of "energy"), chose to our House of us anyway. So we returned "home" homeless. To add insult to injury, "Papa" also decided to ask my father to warn and threatens him to not "helps us in any way," claiming that it was for our own good "suffer the consequences of our actions" hasty and ill-considered "; never again threatens to offer support or assistance, either in person or two children as my father chose to help us in any way. Add to my father who each kindness can give us will be held (by us), as had every previous kindness. "Papa" was my father, and our two children and me very insulting.
I am very grateful that my father does not take account of these threats or warnings and chose to help us anyway. Fortunately, put together your own until we get back to a safe environment, and we were fortunate to stay with my father for a few months until it could find a place for us to live.
And we're not at home ... with a common desire to never again abandoned. You will not lose my things much ... my clothes, my furniture, even my precious life. What I miss the innocence profound are my children? beautiful faith in their father, our respect for him as a good man – these are the things I miss the most is that after all this destruction, fear can never be replaced or reset.
See here for my blog, that a few months ago, I thought the pain really the worst thing that has been a heart could have been repeatedly broken and destroyed courtesy of Dave k., I understand now the terrible consequences that even that is not to compare with the fear of seeing your children heart breaking and to know that you are weak to ever restore or to soothe their pain.
I have the most amazing and wonderful children who could have every mother, and the blessing of the angels of my father that we are in desperate need. I am full of gratitude.

This is the first I wanted to this position.

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Will not back ~ courage to end abusive relationships

Years ago, after standing up for himself, during a confrontation with sadness presence in my life, was a sentence said unto me that my deleting it from my life, "be careful what you burn bridges ..." I would like to remind you when I found how retort, if that person is willing to come to me an evil that would be my drive back to their door. So it was, however, the character of the person and the reason for the parting ways. Currently, brushed off the comments and went from the meeting, didn't give much thought until a few days ago, when the same wording to a friend of mine who a similar moral stand received said if I want my friend omstandighedenin a little courage, self-esteem and confirmed the broke ties with those who have long been mentally, and emotionally abuse towards him. He gave me this moment measurements define in his life and ultimately saying that he had said, "Watch" what your burning bridges. and this that I felt compelled to share with him some conclusions had come at the time I burned my bridges heard. "Keep an eye on what you burn bridges because it back this way again someday move can. "was the phrase that I said unto those who have chosen to break links with long time ago. When I heard this phrase, I remember that there are people who make their decisions based on easily-what is the "easiest" route for the long term. And then there are those who make decisions based on what you need to improve the overall prosperity, regardless of any reactions that as a result of their hearts can occur. what the person said to myself I couldn't understand is going on decades of painful sorrow, arnithikame, with my behavior, there is something that can never in my life to me back to them. When supported me deserve — their Declaration of independence from me and say "well, you deserve to love and more abuse!", I actually had "burned a bridge" still destroy this bridge was in a way to my determent policy. As the bridge burned one life end — a painful life — the way for a revival to occur which will grow and give my freedom of choice to respond to this sentence, when it was first was pitched on me based on my not wanting to continue the endless cycles of discussion going around with the person that I had already enough to lose my life. I reach that point when I was pretty sure that he himself-my options? I knew that there was never a chance that my reasons for validation for me to come to breaking with them (if they could ever take my wealth, my reasons for separation ways would Mute.) is not a real echoed verwijderenWanneer: sometimes you need to burn the bridge so that the devil did not follow us there are toxic when people in our lives that our enormous damage without ever care enough about us to see the damage that they hebbenNiets binds us to those people. Nothing obliges us to keep these people in our lives, no blood or marriage or any kind of faith. Where love is absent from a relationship with all its bonds to be solved and we need for the preservation of our life and health of mind/heart. There are those who deliberately choose to hurt us? owners don't love in their hearts to us, and whose presence is always our grief. People who don't see defect in their actions and therefore no remorse, and therefore no reason to change of their treatment of us feel.  These individuals should be assigned by the interests of our prosperity, regardless of what Earth means only venturing into the unknown. And, I say unto you, when we the limit of what you put in the hands of these toxic basis can bring, they are not afraid of the light that torch. An end to the abuse. Claim that love mankind and burn the bridge and you deserve. __________________________________________________________________

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DARVO: Refuse, and reverse attack victim and offender

There is a new article on http://www.shrink4men.com/that offers with DARVO, a phenomenon that in abusive relationships, when a spouse or a friend, who tries to keep occurs the wrongful abuse spouse or girlfriend responsible. Instead of the company responsible, abuse woman refuses the abusive behaviour, blames her husband and then makes itself a victim. The station also offers tips on how to protect yourself from it.

Here's the link:

Presto, change-o, DARVO: refuse, attack, and the victim and offender

With appreciation

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

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Learn now!

So, when everything will be there and say that I really don't like to men too. In fact, I'm pretty comfortable in saying that I hate them. Now there are all essential. If you knew me, you will not be blamed for feeling that way (see your account if you are seriously). But here's the problem. I would really love to find another day. And I would really be a satisfactory, long term relationship. So, how the past behind them and all the pain and learn to leave to just to look ahead.

I'm good at pretending that I'm curious. Your smile, laugh, and I know that your work really nobody know what happens. Pain, anger, fear ... I have anger? I think it may be the most important thing to let the anger go. ... And I'm not necessarily angry what happened to me in the past, or the lost time I spent with men who are not only not really me, but I treated as shit. Because I think that I am who I am today, I am just because experience in the past have had. And I think my wish. Myself I love me so much better in my 40 with's 20 with me. But ultimately, I think that's not really say much because I don't have my back than wanted.

Here is what angersThelw me … the bad men from the past can hurt as much as I did. My head, I have created this image they get along just fine. That their life so hunky dory (love that Word) and which are not older pain or any remorse for their deeds and so just feel both their lives contently. Now, reality check …I know that this is not the case. Get the first hand, I know that Mr Douchebag # 5 by means of an important legal issues now will be. So his life cannot be large, right? But that does not satisfy me. I wish to hurt. I want to go to jail. I read every word on the matter of minutes for the following process and makes me angry. As I just read that they are more likely to give you a call. And that me furious. I want to in prison. For a long time. This is a very big boy … that kids will love it. But actually I feel better? Why can't you just leave now it came to pass? Why even thinking? Why monitor event (one of these days, we will share what is on trial, a very scary)? I know that you will find it more satisfying to me as I am about forgetting it when I hear that you go to jail for 20 years. So why can't I do myself?

I haven't blogged for a while and I'm not sure what you want to another on this issue tonight. Rather because I went on another date. The doctor (the same weekend). It is amazing. In one, as amazing as it may be a good guy, what concerns me, kind of way. And I feel like it has potential. For the first time four years (by Mr. # 5) I feel like a man potential. But I'm afraid it will hurt. Because you just can't let the past go.

How do I start healing? How do I start my life again? I suppose I never really have lived my adult life by some kind of abuse is physical or produced ... so how do you even know how I can have a normal life? How can I learn like décède ... and most importantly, how do I know if I get enough to get myself to be loved and cared for, by a man. I do not know how to do it. But I really want to learn!

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